Sunday, July 27, 2014

Ruts In The Road

Have you ever had a time in your life where you felt like you were in a rut of some sort and just needed to blow the sides off that rut by skidding sideways through it to open it up wider?

I have been in a small rut for a few months and finally recognized it the last couple weeks. It is easy for me to get caught up in helping my friends and that is what has created this rut for me. I created the rut by moving backward and forwards in the same track, over and over. The three friends in particular have all moved beyond what I was caught up in with them. All three almost simultaneously. I was so invested in them and gave them so much of my energy, that combined weight made for a good sized rut.

Normal reaction would be to do something temporarily to give me a spurt of excitement like a vacation or a crazy weekend, but that isn't going to work this time. That would be like your car being stuck in a rut and rocking it back and forth hoping to break out of it. Doesn't work very well. You usually end up in the same spot with some momentary excitement thinking you are breaking free. If you are not careful, sometimes you may even dig a hole inside that rut.

If your life is looked at as a book, the pages have to progress the story to new chapters before the end of the book. Those pages should be interesting and compel you to keep reading (living). My pages were becoming the same words over and over with no progression. No new chapters. That is what a rut does.

I wasn't sure how I needed to break the sides of that rut down or to get to the next chapter this time. What I have decided to do is to open myself up more to new experiences, things I have not previously considered, or just didn't take the time, to see what works to keep my story interesting. That is the only plan. Maybe some of it will just be momentary bits of excitement but hopefully woven together those bits will make a good story. Not just A story but MY story and my story will not be plugging along in a rut.

The journey continues.

Have you ever found yourself in one of these ruts and be willing to share what broke you free from it?


  1. B Mac,
    Thank You Loved it ,Thank you loved it! A great piece of self observation that is hard to see by most yet so easy for people with a wide open mind set. Even so this one was at your doorstep and you recognized it before you tripped and fell into that rut. Now I know about this somewhat, and I am one that is not the best at self observation. I've been in the rut and dug it into a hole. For me Sometimes its good to have a good friend or loved one that can give constructive coaching, that aren't afraid to speak up and say "hay maybe you should think about changing that underwear" . OK , we are so excited to see activity from you and can't wait to see what's next.

  2. Brenda, yes there was definitely a time in my life when I was stuck in one of those ruts. To break out of it, I broke out of my comfort zone. That made a world of difference to be honest :)

    1. That is exactly what I am doing and almost with determination. I am actually a bit giddy over the prospect of discovering what my limits really are.

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