Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

 

 

For work research purposes I set up a pseudo fake Match.com profile recently. There was no photo and I slightly altered some information since I am not serious. It has been a very interesting experiment to say the least. Since I am not a paying, card carrying member of Match I can’t respond to the emails I am getting from those interested in me. It is a ‘look but don’t touch thing’ for me.

In my research I did learn that 50% of the profiles on dating sites have intentional made up shit. Most of those profiles said they wanted honesty and no game playing. Excuse me?

Here are some who should have made up information or pictures. These are from matches sent to me and a friend who pays for the site. These are a cut and paste job so you are seeing it exactly like they put it on their profiles. I did alter the pictures just a bit.

 

I like to bearound people and have good time. I like doing things outdoors,hunten ,fishing ,sports. I like to be with poeple who like being around other poeple.Some people like to drunk & have a good time, but I like to set around and talk and other things.

I want the next person in my to be the god seens me . Because I pick the one.

i am not racing to the finish,i'm enjoying life one slow step of the way. i love my mom(and her cooking). i'm laid back, but definitely not lazy. i dont own a watch, but i'm never late. i'm a beach bum wrapped in the body of a mountain man, or vice versa. i live my life simply with the occasional dive into decadent indulgence. contact me and i'll reply with words of wonder or maybe just some words to ponder.

I'm kind caring,romantic,and I love when I can be interduced to the little girl that resides in every woman........I'm looking for a womanwho's at that age where games are put aside,and let her mate or friend see the real person.

For Fun:
Sit here at home or walk one block to the beach .
Favorite Hot Spots:
When I have the money I like yard sales flee markets.
 
I get emails with my daily matches and it has been very entertaining to say the least to look at some of them. One of the men was gay and just doesn’t know it yet. His interests included Pinterest and he listed Glee as one of his favorite TV shows. Do you think saying he was interested in women was part of his fake profile? There were some good ones I may have been interested in but I am not paying money so there is that.
I have seen all the TV ads for categorized dating sites and in my research online I found a site that specializes in married people who want to cheat on their spouses. WTF? I do not consider myself a naïve person at all but who the hell knew something like that would exist. There is even one for those looking for a sugar daddy or momma.
What do you think, should I pay the money and hook up with guy whose favorite hot spot is the flee market or go for the mountain man sipping on the straw?

Facebook Dating?

Many months ago my business partner (social media marketing) suggested we use me as a case study for dating using social media. Well, damn if Mark Z hasn't read our minds and all the scuttle butt now is that Facebook is going to be the new and biggest dating site because of their new search feature.

I just stalked myself on my own page to see what my profile and posts would say about me. That was an interesting exercise to say the least.

The first thing I noticed is I would have to post better pictures of myself. I was recently told I was better looking and smaller than I look on Facebook. Figures because many of the pictures were after consuming adult beverages, at a concert where it was 100 degrees and all makeup gone, no makeup to begin with, hair blowing crazy, etc. Another thing is there are none with the famous duck lip thing, none taken in a mirror, none with my boobs hanging out, and none that have been photoshopped which all seem to be essential.

You can determine I am not the "long walks on the beach" person, although I do like that. It seems I just sit on the beach, kicked back with a drink in my hand.

Speaking of drinking, it appears I drink a whole lot more than I really do. Oh wait, I think it may be wine:30 so I need to wrap this up.

I do like gardening, reading, music, traveling, am very patriotic and pretty conservative. My taste in music, books and tv shows are all over the place and pretty eclectic. That all is clear.

My profile doesn't give up much personal information and never has. I have some friends who have changed their relationship status so many times I can't keep up with it. That just seems too high school to me. I don't even show that I am female nor do I use the places thing so you can see where I am at any given moment. That will not bode well for a search engine.

I would not be a good candidate for our companies case study because I am not willing to give up my privacy on Facebook, which is pretty strict, and I am not willing to be guarded about what I post. As I think about it, I am not even into dating much so that just shoots that all to hell.

Single friends - would you use Facebook as a dating site? Single, married, in a relationship or whatever else your profile says, what would your Facebook posts and pictures say about you?

What Not To Text To Women (or just me)

 

I have a Facebook Friend, actually she is a friend of a friend, who is posting about her dating life on her page. It is quite humorous and she even included screen shots of texts last night.

A couple days ago I was thinking of a post for men about what not to text women because of some texts I had just gotten but wanted to put some more thought into it. Don’t know why I wanted to think about it because for those of you who know me personally you know I talk to think. That in itself gets me into all sorts of trouble because random, honest shit just comes out my mouth and even I am surprised sometimes.

If you have sent me a text, don’t get nervous, I am not going to post your texts here, or at least one of you I won’t because I don’t want to set my laptop on fire. Oh my! That would make me turn 50 Shades of Red. Ok, back to the story before I get distracted and send him a text….

After meeting you for one drink we really don’t want or need your “I want you” text. If we had wanted you it would have been more than one drink. You left the bar, had a few more at home, watched some porn and sent text with one hand. No reply and blocked!

I can't speak for all women but I don't want an "I really think I love you" text after seeing you a couple times. I try to be kind with a reply that "I don't want a relationship at this time and maybe you should move along".

It is not only women who do the stereotypical drunk texting. My experience is that men tend to be pretty good at it. I get random texts from this guy I saw a couple times and he is either high, drunk, or nuts. I have to wonder why his thoughts go to me at that particular time, which is kind of spooky if you think about it.

Another tip is don’t send 5 texts the afternoon of a planned meeting saying how much you are looking forward to it. One will suffice as a confirmation. After 5 texts – cancelled date and blocked. You would be the one who would follow up with the “I want you” text and you would be blocked at that point anyway.

I am not admitting to any drunk texting but I did just install an app on my phone that prevents it. I don’t want to risk my texts as a screen shot showing up on someone’s Facebook page. Even with my drunk fingers I have not done any of the above mentioned - at least I don't think so.

Coffee and no alcohol is making me want to throw caution to the wind and text Mr. 50 Shades of Red so I will see you later.

 

SOCIAL MEDIA (FACEBOOK) AND DATING

First dates with someone you don’t really know can be a bit awkward at the beginning because you are getting to know each other, blah, blah, blah.

Unless you have your privacy setting so no one but friends can see things about you, with Facebook you skip straight to 3^rd date, okay maybe 2^nd date.

You get to peek (stalk)  into the other person’s life and learn so much.

Many things you would not learn until you had several conversations.  You go straight to what do they drink, maybe what they eat, where have they been on vacation, how many children they have, where they work, are they a whiner…..

I have several friends who do the online dating thing. Online dating profiles are probably a lot of bullshit written to impress the person reading it. Wouldn’t you do that? Only the best pictures are posted to view. Facebook is different!  Unless you know Facebook and how to restrict things, your friends may have posted pictures of you that you would rather a potential date not see.

So what does all that information in advance change about the dating process. Of course, it could eliminate the first date completely because of the information posted. But let’s say you saw their information on Facebook and decided it would be worth a drink, lunch or dinner. What then? Does it give you more to talk about? Does it eliminate the “rules” on what is acceptable for 1st dates or 2^nd dates?  After all, you skipped those awkward getting to know you moments because you already stalked each other on line.

Speaking of awkward…..you tell a little fib about why you can’t see them Thursday night and oops, someone posts a picture of you that clearly is not what you said you were going to be doing. Hmmm. Better tighten up those privacy settings on Facebook. 

Complications can abound with this such as if you quit seeing someone, do you unfriend them at that point?

I am making up my own dating rules as I go this time around but will someone enlighten me to the social media and dating rules if you know them?  Are there rules or can I make up my own for that also?